Lately, I have been thinking about this set of values that I came up which I like to see in my future spouse, and I want to update it, because God has refined it in the period of 12 months since I last wrote it. Value (2) has been modified, and values sixth to eighth are new ones.
That said, we do not keep an eye open for people, but just to serve God wholeheartedly and leave things to him, and pray that He will touch us and put a burden in us with the right people in His own good time. The list is just so that I can let God continue to refine it, and appreciate such a character when she appears. : )
1) Values God: She has to be a Christian who values the love and power of God in every facet of her life. This quality very much says a lot of things.
2) Knowledgeable and Expansive: I need someone who can connect with me spiritually and intellectually. Someone who I can be just being myself; a work always in progress.
3) Honesty: I don’t mind a person with past emotional baggage. What is important is for the woman to want to walk in the light of Jesus. “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” – John 8:12
4) Love herself: She must know how to love herself as God has love her. She has to honour herself and know where her physical boundaries lie. Strong bonds with her family will be important and appreciated.
5) Character: An original, humourous and independent character is highly regarded. Relationships need many doses of humour, originality helps to create a distinctive character, and independence means that we give each other “space in togetherness.”
6) Effective Servants in Christ: Being in a relationship should enhance both of our abilities to serve God together, and not diminish it because we have to spend time ‘maintaining’ the relationship.
7) Passion: A passion for the work/study that God has called Him or Her into.
Courage: Someone who always encourage and support me in doing the right things, even if it means that I have to be different from what the world tells me. She is inspirational by virtue of the fact that I want to refine myself so that I can be the best tool for God to use, and a complete partner for her.
